I come in the door and unload. I hug my kids and husband. I take off my shoes and jacket and as soon as possible I put on my cozy pajama pants.
The pajama pants are a signal: I am home.
I’m not talking about the hot pajama pants with “pink” spelled out on the cheeks, I’m talking about the fuzzy, fun-loving pants that clearly say, “I’m not here to impress you. I’m very comfortable with myself and I’ll accept you just the way you are.”
Although I dress professionally at work, I’ve been carrying the spirit of my jammies with me during the day; I call it my pajama pants state of mind.
I think of Thich Nhat Hanh’s quote, “To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.”
We know this work of coaching is about building trusting relationships, being authentic, listening, leading and following through. And it all begins as an inside job. Knowing our weaknesses, laughing at our shortcomings and making repairs when needed are part of self-acceptance. Another part is knowing our strengths, being willing to share them and not playing small.
When I go to work tomorrow I’ll worry less that you are impressed with me and more that I am genuinely myself. To borrow from Billy Joel,
I know what I’m needin’, and I don’t want to waste more time.
I’m in a pajama pant state of mind.