Pajama Pants State of Mind


I come in the door and unload. I hug my kids and husband. I take off my shoes and jacket and as soon as possible I put on my cozy pajama pants.

The pajama pants are a signal: I am home.

I’m not talking about the hot pajama pants with “pink” spelled out on the cheeks, I’m talking about the fuzzy, fun-loving pants that clearly say, “I’m not here to impress you. I’m very comfortable with myself and I’ll accept you just the way you are.”

Although I dress professionally at work, I’ve been carrying the spirit of my jammies with me during the day; I call it my pajama pants state of mind.

I think of Thich Nhat Hanh’s quote, “To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.”

We know this work of coaching is about building trusting relationships, being authentic, listening, leading and following through. And it all begins as an inside job. Knowing our weaknesses, laughing at our shortcomings and making repairs when needed are part of self-acceptance. Another part is knowing our strengths, being willing to share them and not playing small.

When I go to work tomorrow I’ll worry less that you are impressed with me and more that I am genuinely myself. To borrow from Billy Joel,

I know what I’m needin’, and I don’t want to waste more time.
I’m in a pajama pant state of mind.

8 thoughts on “Pajama Pants State of Mind

  1. All I have to say to that is “Amen!” I saw this before I fell asleep last night – just what I needed at the end of a long couple of days. Thanks for posting!

  2. I needed that today- thanks! I also just invested in several new pairs of fancy-ish leggings…. that way I can sneak in some pajama-ish days and still be professional at work!

  3. I like the reminder to be genuinely ourselves. When pressure mounts, sometimes it’s hard to remember that.

    Right now, I wonder…do people know my genuine self enough? When I let stressors get to me, I don’t always feel like my “self.” When challenging situations arise, I want people to know I’m doing my very best and that I recognize they are doing the same.

    What I’m taking from this post is simple. I need to have a “pajama pant state of mind” and own up to my flaws without self-doubt.

    Thank you.

  4. I’m quite sure that I will never hear Billy Joel sing “New York state of Mind” again. It will forever play in my brain as “Pajama pants”. I’ve been working on being true to my genuine self and being kind to myself. Your words will be a great help to keep it in mind.

    • Oh good. Editor Kurt thought I’d upset Billy Joel fans with my reference. I told him I thought most people could appreciate both the original and the copy. Yes, please be kind to your wonderful self. Happy Friday–we made it!

  5. As a person who wore uniforms to school for 12 years it was a normal part of my day to get home and change out of my “school clothes” first thing. It’s been more than 30 years since I moved from student to educator. After reading this post I realized that changing out of my “school clothes” continues to be one of the first things I do when I get home. The ritual continues to signify moving from work to play/relaxation each day. It’s also a good reminder to leave the emotions of the day behind and take time to focus on taking care of my family and myself.

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